Adulting 101- How to get Your S**t Together

I'm not 100% sure of as to when my parents stopped doing things for me. One day my mother was doing laundry, the next I was doing it. There was no formal discussion of the matter, it just kind of well, happened. In a way, I sort of appreciate my parents methodology (if I can even call it that). If it was an actual thought out thing they did a good job and probably realized that based off my personality as I got older I would grow tired of waiting for them to do things for me like laundry or cooking and would simply just do it myself because I would want it done when I wanted it done.

 

Learn How to Manage Your Money

And I mean really manage it. Create a budget. Open a savings account. Do whatever you have to do to make sure your needs are met with the amount of money you're bringing in a pay period. I fall victim to telling myself "Oh I'll get paid again" in order to justify random impulse purchases.

Get Organized

Let's face it, life gets pretty crazy. In the words of Ferris Bueller, "If you don't stop to look around everyone in awhile you could miss it." Often times, especially in college we get so caught up in making a living, maintaining an acceptable GPA, and having a social life. Me especially I get so focused on work, I slack on school. I get so focused on school, and forget that I have friends or cut my hours and end up strapped for cash. The best thing I could have done for myself was get a planner that I actually love and can work with and actually use it. This way I see everything I have to do, I can pick the best days I can actually get things done, within reason of course and that way I can manage my life the best I can (and get some sleep!).

Create a Morning Routine

The way your morning starts off is what sets the tone for the rest of your day. You know personally what makes you feel the most productive and like your best you so put those things into your routine. Maybe it's waking up i the morning, having coffee and watching Spongebob (guilty!). Maybe it's getting up and working out. Whatever it is do it. A good morning is the base of  a good day and a good day for me is a productive day. I have a morning routine up on the blog now from last semester but I see myself putting up an updated one soon!

Technology Clean Up

As we get older some things we did at 16 are not necessarily things we should be participating in at 22. I say this because we grew up in the social media age and a lot of things we did as teenagers are still well documented on Facebook and Instagram. Now personally what I do is save some of the less cringe-worthy pictures and videos to my laptop and just remove them from social media to make a less cluttered, more professional space.

Stay Informed 

At this stage of the game, no matter how much we hate to admit it, we are actual adults. As adults we are responsible for making decisions that impact not only us but some decisions that we make impact others around us and future generations to come. If we're not informed, then how do we make our decisions? If watching the news isn't your thing, cut on news alerts in the news app on your iPhone. That way you stay informed and don't even really realize it.

 

What do you do when you realize you need to get your life? I'd love to hear in the comments. Until next time!

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Prepped for College: Fall Semester Goals

Friends, we have now almost reached July, which means it’s basically the month before most of us return back to school. I don’t know about you guys but, between working and working with the girls in my organization over the summer, I am more than ready to get back to school. I’ll probably be singing a new tune by September, but for right now I’m ready to get back in a set schedule which revolves around me planning around classes. In two weeks my girls organization will be having a four day program and the theme is Purpose. This means our focus throughout the four days will be on how we as women find our purpose, personal growth, and goal setting. This being said, I feel like it’s time for me to set a few Fall Semester goals.

  1. Do/Start on Homework The Day It’s Assigned

I’m so guilty of completing whole 7 page papers the night it’s due as most of my assignments aren’t due to be submitted by midnight. At this stage of my college career…I can’t play that. I have six classes this semester. Five classes until October. I absolutely refuse to drive myself nuts with last minute assignments.

2. Water, Water, and More Water

So far this summer I’ve done a fairly good job at drinking more than enough water and when school starts again, I want to keep it up. I also want to avoid eating out as much as possibly because between school and work I fall into the pattern of eating out and craving fast food non stop very quickly.

3. Find a Balance

All too often I will think that I am capable of doing a million and one things in one day. I over extend myself making commitments to friends, at church, work…it all gets a little crazy and a little stressful but, because I agreed to it I feel so obligated to comply and deliver but so mad at myself for over extending myself because I know I get very mean, very cranky, and very tired because of my ability to over schedule myself and not want to disappoint. This ends now.

 

That’s it for my semester goals. What are you guys looking forward to this semester? Feel free to let me know in the comments or Tweet me what you’re most excited about. Until next time, dolls!

Being Your Best “You”

Guys..let’s just say I’ve been in a slump. Creatively, mentally, emotionally…I’ve just been completely stuck in Slumpsville. Eventually though, I finally had a conversation with myself and said “Self, what are you doing girl?” …Yes those were my exact words to myself. I got to thinking about what exactly I need to do to be my best me and get back to regularly scheduled programming and so far it’s definitely worked.

Check Your Circle Ever come home from a night out with friends and just feel completely drained? Ever had a friend call you and you find yourself feeling a sense of dread so you just let the phone ring? Yeah been there. Sometimes our “friends” weigh us down with their problems and struggles and you just have to step back and have some time to yourself.

Do Something You Love Whether it’s blogging, painting, running, whatever it is, go out there and do it girl

Don’t Look Back on “Could Haves” I read something the other day and it really spoke to me. “Don’t ask God to restore a relationship that almost destroyed you”. This being said, often when we find ourselves in a slump we look back on past events, past relationships and you remember the good times but you don’t remember the reality of the situation. Don’t look back, always look forward.

Embrace Change Change can be a good thing. Often just by changing around a room, purging your wardrobe, or changing your hair color can provide a fresh outlook and motivate you to be the best you that well, you can be.

Explore Meditation It’s really that simple. Just taking a few quiet moments to yourself either in the morning or at night can do wonders. If you feel like you can’t focus to meditate (like me) try a guided meditation app. The app I use is called Calm and it even helps me sleep at night with the Sleep Stories feature in the app. I highly recommend it to all my iPhone users.

Those are my tips for being your best you. What do you guys do to get out of a slump?

Until Next Time!

Monday Motivation

Guys…I have to tell you guys, I’m in some serious need of some Monday Motivation. I figured if I write this post, I might actually get my brain moving.

Let’s start the post with how exactly I got here shall we?

So normally I’m the type of gal that loves mornings, loves Mondays…as much as any normally functioning person can I suppose. I love the feeling that a new week brings. However…this weekend my two friends and myself decided to have a little much needed girls getaway. I say much needed because these are my childhood friends and since we’re growing up, we have school, jobs, we’ve moved to new cities…when the opportunity arose for us to get together, we jumped on it.

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Yup…I’d rather be sitting on the beach, drink in hand, with these surprisingly very uncomfortable rocks than writing this paper.

 

There was a lot of greasy fast food, a lot of shopping, and a lot of liquor. This being said, a detox is necessary. Actually, thinking about the detox is kind of inspiring me as we speak to get back on track with my better eating habits.

See how that worked out? My brain is working, gears are moving, I’ve motivated myself and now hopefully I can motivate you. Try to start this week, and every week there after with setting a goal. It can be a small goal just for this week, or a small goal with other small goals following leading up to crushing a big, overall goal. Let’s get our shit together, plan out our weeks, be productive and just kill it. I’m always reminding myself that I have to work hard, to play hard. How do you guys keep it together during the week? I’d love to hear because my life can get kind of crazy and advice is always appreciated.

Until Next Time, Guys! Happy Monday!

Inspo- Vol. 1

Inspiration is everywhere. It pushes us to try new things, explore, and let’s be honest —  get our shit together. Here’s who (and what) has been inspiring me lately.

Jayla Koriyan

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Yes! Jayla is one of my all time favorite YouTubers. She’s the definition of a Girl Boss and she’s a girl that has it all. She has the brains (she’ll be graduating from college this year with not one but TWO degrees in four years), she’s got the beauty, and she’s business savvy.  She even wrote a book titled Pretty and Educated available NOW. Jayla started her YouTube career making fashion videos while she was still in high school and when she went to college, she took her subscribers along with her, expanding her channel to include weekly college blogs that are let’s face it, one of my few addictions and I look forward to watching what she’s been up to every Sunday. Jayla’s bubbly, fun, and very real personalty makes her subscribers feel like she’s their real life best friend which is one of the things that drew me to her channel when I was starting college.

Jayla’s Beauty Channel    Jayla’s Vlog Channel 

Micah Nicole

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I first found Micah on Twitter and of course, I did some lurking. I found out she too had her own blog and really drops some knowledge in her blog posts. Micah is also a PR major and the true definition of a Girl Boss. One of her most recent blog posts focuses on why personal branding is important for college girls, no matter what you want to do post-undergrad. Check out her blog if you get the chance, I swear you won’t be disappointed!

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With Love From Emalee is a blog that I’ve recently stumbled upon. Coincidentally enough, Emalee is actually from my hometown. Even more coincidentally, we both major in Public Relations. Her values and even her reasoning as to why she chose to major in PR are so similar to mine and her blog aesthetic is literally #goals.

This has been what’s been inspiring me lately. Like I said before, everyone is in need of a little inspiration because we all get stuck in a rut every now and then. I’d love to see what’s been inspiring YOU lately. Let me know in the comments or on Twitter.

Until Next Time!

20 Things I Learned at 20

Hi guys, I’m back. As I’m enjoying my Martin Luther King, Jr. Day (and day off from school…though the semester started literally 6 days ago), I realized I’m exactly a week a way from my 21st birthday. 2016 was a crazy year for me. Amongst everything that happened within the year…I exited my teens and finally made it to what I thought was true “adulthood”. I say this critically because when I was a kid, there were so many things I wanted to have done at twenty or in my twenties. Graduate from college at 21, Married with a career at 22, kids at 23. Let’s all laugh at my cluelessness. I always thought that I would really have my life together at 20. Despite what I thought, I’m going to share what I’ve learned after completing the first year of the decade known as my Selfish Twenties.

  1. College boys aren’t so different from high school boys
  2. Sometimes all you need is your best friend and some ice cream
  3. And Sleep — Lots of Sleep
  4. It’s impossible to be friends with an ex
  5. Cutting your phone off isn’t the end of the world
  6. The world owes no one
  7. Patience is a virtue
  8. College is really for finding yourself
  9. It’s okay not to have it all figured out
  10. Don’t believe the hype — no one has their shit together
  11. It’s okay to say no
  12. Sometimes, you just have to let go
  13. Comparing your success to another’s will only make you feel worse
  14. Good things come to those who hustle
  15. Trust your gut — it’s usually right
  16. Having a big heart isn’t a curse
  17. Let yourself have a good long cry every now and then
  18. It’s okay to be alone
  19. A relationship with God is so important
  20. Never compromise your morals

Some of what I’ve learned, I had to learn the hard way, I definitely was not exempt from  stress and heartache. I’m excited to see what the twenty-first chapter of my life has in store for me and even more excited to share with you guys!

Until Next Time

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January 2017 Playlist

Well y’all…January is FINALLY here! There are so many things that January brings with it. For many, the idea of making a change and a fresh start in the new year is exciting all in itself. For me however, it means celebrating yet another year of life…and what’s more exciting than reaching yet another milestone birthday, my 21st! Considering this, is there any better way to celebrate than with music? Of course not. So here I am sharing my January 2017 playlist with you guys!

 

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So y’all, that’s my January 2017 playlist! Did you guys catch on to the slight birthday theme? I’m always looking for new music to jam so please send me what’s on y’alls playlists!

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