Adulting 101- How to get Your S**t Together

I'm not 100% sure of as to when my parents stopped doing things for me. One day my mother was doing laundry, the next I was doing it. There was no formal discussion of the matter, it just kind of well, happened. In a way, I sort of appreciate my parents methodology (if I can even call it that). If it was an actual thought out thing they did a good job and probably realized that based off my personality as I got older I would grow tired of waiting for them to do things for me like laundry or cooking and would simply just do it myself because I would want it done when I wanted it done.

 

Learn How to Manage Your Money

And I mean really manage it. Create a budget. Open a savings account. Do whatever you have to do to make sure your needs are met with the amount of money you're bringing in a pay period. I fall victim to telling myself "Oh I'll get paid again" in order to justify random impulse purchases.

Get Organized

Let's face it, life gets pretty crazy. In the words of Ferris Bueller, "If you don't stop to look around everyone in awhile you could miss it." Often times, especially in college we get so caught up in making a living, maintaining an acceptable GPA, and having a social life. Me especially I get so focused on work, I slack on school. I get so focused on school, and forget that I have friends or cut my hours and end up strapped for cash. The best thing I could have done for myself was get a planner that I actually love and can work with and actually use it. This way I see everything I have to do, I can pick the best days I can actually get things done, within reason of course and that way I can manage my life the best I can (and get some sleep!).

Create a Morning Routine

The way your morning starts off is what sets the tone for the rest of your day. You know personally what makes you feel the most productive and like your best you so put those things into your routine. Maybe it's waking up i the morning, having coffee and watching Spongebob (guilty!). Maybe it's getting up and working out. Whatever it is do it. A good morning is the base of  a good day and a good day for me is a productive day. I have a morning routine up on the blog now from last semester but I see myself putting up an updated one soon!

Technology Clean Up

As we get older some things we did at 16 are not necessarily things we should be participating in at 22. I say this because we grew up in the social media age and a lot of things we did as teenagers are still well documented on Facebook and Instagram. Now personally what I do is save some of the less cringe-worthy pictures and videos to my laptop and just remove them from social media to make a less cluttered, more professional space.

Stay Informed 

At this stage of the game, no matter how much we hate to admit it, we are actual adults. As adults we are responsible for making decisions that impact not only us but some decisions that we make impact others around us and future generations to come. If we're not informed, then how do we make our decisions? If watching the news isn't your thing, cut on news alerts in the news app on your iPhone. That way you stay informed and don't even really realize it.

 

What do you do when you realize you need to get your life? I'd love to hear in the comments. Until next time!

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Prepped for College: Fall Semester Goals

Friends, we have now almost reached July, which means it’s basically the month before most of us return back to school. I don’t know about you guys but, between working and working with the girls in my organization over the summer, I am more than ready to get back to school. I’ll probably be singing a new tune by September, but for right now I’m ready to get back in a set schedule which revolves around me planning around classes. In two weeks my girls organization will be having a four day program and the theme is Purpose. This means our focus throughout the four days will be on how we as women find our purpose, personal growth, and goal setting. This being said, I feel like it’s time for me to set a few Fall Semester goals.

  1. Do/Start on Homework The Day It’s Assigned

I’m so guilty of completing whole 7 page papers the night it’s due as most of my assignments aren’t due to be submitted by midnight. At this stage of my college career…I can’t play that. I have six classes this semester. Five classes until October. I absolutely refuse to drive myself nuts with last minute assignments.

2. Water, Water, and More Water

So far this summer I’ve done a fairly good job at drinking more than enough water and when school starts again, I want to keep it up. I also want to avoid eating out as much as possibly because between school and work I fall into the pattern of eating out and craving fast food non stop very quickly.

3. Find a Balance

All too often I will think that I am capable of doing a million and one things in one day. I over extend myself making commitments to friends, at church, work…it all gets a little crazy and a little stressful but, because I agreed to it I feel so obligated to comply and deliver but so mad at myself for over extending myself because I know I get very mean, very cranky, and very tired because of my ability to over schedule myself and not want to disappoint. This ends now.

 

That’s it for my semester goals. What are you guys looking forward to this semester? Feel free to let me know in the comments or Tweet me what you’re most excited about. Until next time, dolls!

How I Stay Organized – My School and Personal Lives

Hi guys! I’ve missed blogging so so soooo much you have no idea. I even felt kind of guilty for not sticking to my posting schedule for a few weeks but every now and then we have to take a step back and take care of ourselves, mentally, emotionally, and physically, which is exactly what I had to do. Part of taking care of ourselves also has to do with how organized our lives and environments are. Whether it be our rooms, our cars, our workspaces, our schedules, how we handle all of these things affects our levels of stress. So, I’ve decided to show you guys how I stay (or attempt to stay) organized.

I must plan under any circumstance

And no, I don’t mean mentally think out what I’m going to do with my day or week when the time comes. I mean physically write out what needs to get done and what I want to get done. Doing this allows me to actually see what I’m doing and if I’m actually getting things done! Plus, my Lily Pulitzer planner is adorbs so that’s an extra little perk too, right?

I also must clean as I go

I’m going to be completely honest with you guys. I’m a very OCD type of person. I like for things to be a certain way and just organized accordingly. However, I’m also very lazy and all too quickly when I look, my room/car/purse/desk/life is a mess. So before I leave the house, after or while I’m getting dressed, before getting out of the car if I see any mess I must pick it up right then and there so it doesn’t begin  to accumulate.

I schedule in “Personal Days”

Yes, you read that correctly; I schedule in “personal days”. Some of you may ask, “well what about classes?” Yes, I do have classes however, this is why I use the word schedule. Remember those packets of paper stapled together that your professor gave you at the beginning of the semester? What’s it called again? Oh, right a syllabus. Your syllabus is what is going to save you. It has all your assignment dates, test dates, class meeting dates, all ready predetermined. This being said, sometimes life gets a little crazy and you need to take a day to get your priorities back in order and get organized. Before I do this though, I consult the syllabi for all of my classes and then pick a day to take off. This is what I like to call “skipping smart”.

Well guys, this is how I stay organized, I hope this helped in some way with the Spring Semester fast approaching. What are your tips for staying organized?

Until Next Time

2017 Goals

You guys, I’m back in action! Some of my longtime followers may have noticed I took a little bit of a break from blogging and social media for a number of reasons, mainly due to the fact that I needed to take some time for me to figure out what exactly it was I wanted in life and to reassess my priorities because, duh self care is important. 2016 has been a hell of a year for me. With 2017 finally here, I’m ready to get back to the grind, so what better way to start off the year than to document and share my goals for the year.

Financial Goals

  • STOP SPENDING JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN, BAILES!

I admit it. I have a little bit of a shopping problem. Okay, I kinda just straight up lied. I have a big shopping problem. When I feel bad, I shop. When I’m happy, I shop. When I’m bored, I shop. It’s a never ending cycle. This being said, I have to cut it out. Less spending, more saving.

  • Invest

I’ve always believed in investing whether it be in myself or my closet (more so my closet), however, I want to do more than just that. I have friends that are mission minded and have their own creative ideas. Who better to invest in than your friends? We always want to put our money towards products and services provided by people we don’t even know, so why not put our money towards people we actually do know?

Academic Goals

I want a 4.0 for the semester, or no less than a 3.5. No if, ands or buts about it. Yes things do come up, but that’s no excuse for me not to be great. I know that I can pull off a 3.0 with very little effort, but why be lazy?

Career Goals

I currently have an internship working in my city’s Chamber of Commerce in the public relations department, which mainly deals with tourism. I love the work I get to do and the people I have the opportunity to meet, but I want to kind of step out of my comfort zone and explore other areas in the PR field this year.

Personal Goals

  • Make More Time for Me

I have always been the type of person to set aside my wants, for the benefit of others. That stops now. At the end of the day I have to ask myself if I am truly happy and proud of what I’ve accomplished this year, and my life as a whole. If I want that answer to be a resounding ‘yes’, then I have to focus on myself and what my goals are and what I want.

  • Plan Ahead

When it comes to managing myself I have no problem planning ahead, just in case. However, within my church I work with my cousins Brittany and Sierra in our girls ministry, working with girls between the ages of 5 and 16. We take them on outings, have small and large group workshops and discussions, as well as work on other responsibilities we have within the church. However, Brittany went off to college in August and is now in Atlanta for the majority of the year and since then, things gave been a little hectic. I feel like I can do more, I just haven’t truly sat down to plan effectively and work out how exactly I’m going to carry out my plan. This is a major goal of mine for 2017.

Blog Goals

My goals for my blog are really very limited though it’s going to take a lot of work on my part to make it so. I’d like to:

  • Brand myself more effectively
  • Gain a larger following on my social media platforms
  • Create content with more substance than fluff

Overall I feel like my goals are achievable for this year and I hope to make everything I want possible. I’m a firm believer in the phrase, “Stay down until you come up” and that’s exactly what I plan on doing this year because I want 2018 to be my cut up season. What are your goals for 2017? Let me know in the comments, I’d love to read them!

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Dorm Room Essentials: Prepped for College Series

It’s that time of year again. What time you ask? Okay, I’ll tell you even though I’m pretty sure you’re already quite familiar to what exactly it is that I’m referring to. Ready for the answer? It’s back to school time. For my high school readers, time for you to do that last minute summer reading you had three months to do. For my college readers tome for you to, if you’re like me, get your schedules done for the semester and pick up some things for your dorm room. Though this post is mainly geared towards my college aged readers, some of these items my younger readers can use in some capacity, but I’ll have another post just for you. The Fall 2014 semester was my first semester of being an actual, full time college student. By this I mean, not dually enrolled as I was in high school. Being a full time student of the university allowed me many new privileges that I wasn’t awarded the year before because I was still technically a high school student. I now had a meal plan and the biggest (and my favorite) privilege of them all, was the fact that I could now have my very own dorm room. I no longer had to live with my parents and I could come and go as a pleased. Though I lived in the same city as the school I attended, I decided that I wanted a dorm room so that I could have the full authentic “college experience”. Dorm life was very different than I what I imagined and I found that once I moved in and the semester progressed, there were certain things I found that I needed that I didn’t think to buy. So, here’s a list of my Top 10 Dorm Essentials.

 

Extra Sheets, Pillows, and Pillow Cases
When shopping for necessities like these always follow the “extra is better” rule. After all, you never know what will come up or when you’ll need extra sheets, pillows, or pillow cases. I found myself having my sister stay in my dorm room overnight throughout the semester and with the extra bed I had in my room, she was not about to share my XL Twin bed with me. Personally I’d recommend buying at least one extra set of each.

Trash bags
This one is kind of self explanatory and extremely practical and yet, I have no idea why I forgot to buy any before move in day. Don’t be that girl bringing 3 Target bags full of garbage out to the dumpster because you didn’t have time to make a trip to Wal-Mart or Target to get any before time for room checks.

Shower Shoes
Please, whatever you do, do NOT, I repeat, NOT forget to pick up a pair of shower shoes. They can be a pair of flip flops you got that you’re not so fond of from the Old Navy $1 flip flop sale or a cheap pair from the Dollar Store, just pick some flip flops and use them as your designated shower shoes. To my understanding many freshman dorm rooms have communal bathrooms while others don’t. If you’re unsure of your dorm’s particular arrangement it’s better to be safe than sorry. Luckily for me, my aunt put together a care package with two pairs of shower shoes, extra soap, washcloths, etc. and that my sister and I could both have a pair.

Cleaning Supplies
On move in day, be prepared to do a thorough wipe down and scrub of your dorm room. It may look clean but don’t be fooled. Colleges are full of germs and even if you’re someone who never gets sick, prepare to catch something. Be sure to stock up on bleach, Lysol wipes, and bathroom cleaning supplies.

Laundry Supplies
While I’m on the subject of personal hygiene, another major set of items overlooked in the packing and unpacking process is that of laundry supplies. Whether it be detergent, fabric softener, dryer sheets, you name it, don’t be that person who realizes at the last minute when they’re in desperate need to do laundry that they have none of these things.

Laundry Bag
This essential goes hand in hand with laundry supplies but is often overlooked because chances are, you won’t think about it since you probably have a clothes hamper. Personally, I prefer taking my dirty clothes down to the laundry room in this as opposed to lugging my hamper down from my room on the third floor. Laundry bags are often inexpensive and can be found at Target, Wal-Mart and even the Dollar Store.

Underwear/Undergarments
Again, need I say any more? Stock up on things such as underwear, bras, socks, and layering tank tops before move in day. Doing this prolongs the need to do laundry just a little longer.

Additional Chargers and Cables
This essential is also kind of self explanatory. Things happen, chargers break. Never get caught without a charger, especially if you have an iPhone!

Extra Lighting

Let’s be honest, the florescent lighting in a dorm room isn’t the most flattering lighting to begin with. I suggest buying a desk lamp and maybe a floor lamp, string lights or maybe even both. In addition to creating your lighting more attractive, you’ll have the ability to be able to sneak in that late night cram session without waking your roomie and the additional lighting can make your room feel more homey and comfortable.

Under Bed Storage
At this point if you’re a new college student, you haven’t gotten the moving process down to a science like returning college students do. I have forever been an over-packer and some times I don’t even use everything I bring to school with me but I bring it anyway because you never know what will come up. This being said, my dorm room did not have the means to hold everything and still be organized. Under bed storage was a life saver. I suggest going to your local Target or Wal-Mart and purchasing one or two storage drawers like this or similar if your dorm room has your bed lofted already or purchase bed risers to make your bed sit higher.

These are my top 10 dorm essentials! Let me know what you think in the comments below and tell me what your back to school essentials are. If you want to see my other dorm essentials follow my Pinterest account.

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