Adulting 101- How to get Your S**t Together

I'm not 100% sure of as to when my parents stopped doing things for me. One day my mother was doing laundry, the next I was doing it. There was no formal discussion of the matter, it just kind of well, happened. In a way, I sort of appreciate my parents methodology (if I can even call it that). If it was an actual thought out thing they did a good job and probably realized that based off my personality as I got older I would grow tired of waiting for them to do things for me like laundry or cooking and would simply just do it myself because I would want it done when I wanted it done.

 

Learn How to Manage Your Money

And I mean really manage it. Create a budget. Open a savings account. Do whatever you have to do to make sure your needs are met with the amount of money you're bringing in a pay period. I fall victim to telling myself "Oh I'll get paid again" in order to justify random impulse purchases.

Get Organized

Let's face it, life gets pretty crazy. In the words of Ferris Bueller, "If you don't stop to look around everyone in awhile you could miss it." Often times, especially in college we get so caught up in making a living, maintaining an acceptable GPA, and having a social life. Me especially I get so focused on work, I slack on school. I get so focused on school, and forget that I have friends or cut my hours and end up strapped for cash. The best thing I could have done for myself was get a planner that I actually love and can work with and actually use it. This way I see everything I have to do, I can pick the best days I can actually get things done, within reason of course and that way I can manage my life the best I can (and get some sleep!).

Create a Morning Routine

The way your morning starts off is what sets the tone for the rest of your day. You know personally what makes you feel the most productive and like your best you so put those things into your routine. Maybe it's waking up i the morning, having coffee and watching Spongebob (guilty!). Maybe it's getting up and working out. Whatever it is do it. A good morning is the base of  a good day and a good day for me is a productive day. I have a morning routine up on the blog now from last semester but I see myself putting up an updated one soon!

Technology Clean Up

As we get older some things we did at 16 are not necessarily things we should be participating in at 22. I say this because we grew up in the social media age and a lot of things we did as teenagers are still well documented on Facebook and Instagram. Now personally what I do is save some of the less cringe-worthy pictures and videos to my laptop and just remove them from social media to make a less cluttered, more professional space.

Stay Informed 

At this stage of the game, no matter how much we hate to admit it, we are actual adults. As adults we are responsible for making decisions that impact not only us but some decisions that we make impact others around us and future generations to come. If we're not informed, then how do we make our decisions? If watching the news isn't your thing, cut on news alerts in the news app on your iPhone. That way you stay informed and don't even really realize it.

 

What do you do when you realize you need to get your life? I'd love to hear in the comments. Until next time!

Prepped for College: Fall Semester Goals

Friends, we have now almost reached July, which means it’s basically the month before most of us return back to school. I don’t know about you guys but, between working and working with the girls in my organization over the summer, I am more than ready to get back to school. I’ll probably be singing a new tune by September, but for right now I’m ready to get back in a set schedule which revolves around me planning around classes. In two weeks my girls organization will be having a four day program and the theme is Purpose. This means our focus throughout the four days will be on how we as women find our purpose, personal growth, and goal setting. This being said, I feel like it’s time for me to set a few Fall Semester goals.

  1. Do/Start on Homework The Day It’s Assigned

I’m so guilty of completing whole 7 page papers the night it’s due as most of my assignments aren’t due to be submitted by midnight. At this stage of my college career…I can’t play that. I have six classes this semester. Five classes until October. I absolutely refuse to drive myself nuts with last minute assignments.

2. Water, Water, and More Water

So far this summer I’ve done a fairly good job at drinking more than enough water and when school starts again, I want to keep it up. I also want to avoid eating out as much as possibly because between school and work I fall into the pattern of eating out and craving fast food non stop very quickly.

3. Find a Balance

All too often I will think that I am capable of doing a million and one things in one day. I over extend myself making commitments to friends, at church, work…it all gets a little crazy and a little stressful but, because I agreed to it I feel so obligated to comply and deliver but so mad at myself for over extending myself because I know I get very mean, very cranky, and very tired because of my ability to over schedule myself and not want to disappoint. This ends now.

 

That’s it for my semester goals. What are you guys looking forward to this semester? Feel free to let me know in the comments or Tweet me what you’re most excited about. Until next time, dolls!

Inspo- Vol. 1

Inspiration is everywhere. It pushes us to try new things, explore, and let’s be honest —  get our shit together. Here’s who (and what) has been inspiring me lately.

Jayla Koriyan

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Yes! Jayla is one of my all time favorite YouTubers. She’s the definition of a Girl Boss and she’s a girl that has it all. She has the brains (she’ll be graduating from college this year with not one but TWO degrees in four years), she’s got the beauty, and she’s business savvy.  She even wrote a book titled Pretty and Educated available NOW. Jayla started her YouTube career making fashion videos while she was still in high school and when she went to college, she took her subscribers along with her, expanding her channel to include weekly college blogs that are let’s face it, one of my few addictions and I look forward to watching what she’s been up to every Sunday. Jayla’s bubbly, fun, and very real personalty makes her subscribers feel like she’s their real life best friend which is one of the things that drew me to her channel when I was starting college.

Jayla’s Beauty Channel    Jayla’s Vlog Channel 

Micah Nicole

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I first found Micah on Twitter and of course, I did some lurking. I found out she too had her own blog and really drops some knowledge in her blog posts. Micah is also a PR major and the true definition of a Girl Boss. One of her most recent blog posts focuses on why personal branding is important for college girls, no matter what you want to do post-undergrad. Check out her blog if you get the chance, I swear you won’t be disappointed!

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With Love From Emalee is a blog that I’ve recently stumbled upon. Coincidentally enough, Emalee is actually from my hometown. Even more coincidentally, we both major in Public Relations. Her values and even her reasoning as to why she chose to major in PR are so similar to mine and her blog aesthetic is literally #goals.

This has been what’s been inspiring me lately. Like I said before, everyone is in need of a little inspiration because we all get stuck in a rut every now and then. I’d love to see what’s been inspiring YOU lately. Let me know in the comments or on Twitter.

Until Next Time!

20 Things I Learned at 20

Hi guys, I’m back. As I’m enjoying my Martin Luther King, Jr. Day (and day off from school…though the semester started literally 6 days ago), I realized I’m exactly a week a way from my 21st birthday. 2016 was a crazy year for me. Amongst everything that happened within the year…I exited my teens and finally made it to what I thought was true “adulthood”. I say this critically because when I was a kid, there were so many things I wanted to have done at twenty or in my twenties. Graduate from college at 21, Married with a career at 22, kids at 23. Let’s all laugh at my cluelessness. I always thought that I would really have my life together at 20. Despite what I thought, I’m going to share what I’ve learned after completing the first year of the decade known as my Selfish Twenties.

  1. College boys aren’t so different from high school boys
  2. Sometimes all you need is your best friend and some ice cream
  3. And Sleep — Lots of Sleep
  4. It’s impossible to be friends with an ex
  5. Cutting your phone off isn’t the end of the world
  6. The world owes no one
  7. Patience is a virtue
  8. College is really for finding yourself
  9. It’s okay not to have it all figured out
  10. Don’t believe the hype — no one has their shit together
  11. It’s okay to say no
  12. Sometimes, you just have to let go
  13. Comparing your success to another’s will only make you feel worse
  14. Good things come to those who hustle
  15. Trust your gut — it’s usually right
  16. Having a big heart isn’t a curse
  17. Let yourself have a good long cry every now and then
  18. It’s okay to be alone
  19. A relationship with God is so important
  20. Never compromise your morals

Some of what I’ve learned, I had to learn the hard way, I definitely was not exempt from  stress and heartache. I’m excited to see what the twenty-first chapter of my life has in store for me and even more excited to share with you guys!

Until Next Time

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How I Stay Organized – My School and Personal Lives

Hi guys! I’ve missed blogging so so soooo much you have no idea. I even felt kind of guilty for not sticking to my posting schedule for a few weeks but every now and then we have to take a step back and take care of ourselves, mentally, emotionally, and physically, which is exactly what I had to do. Part of taking care of ourselves also has to do with how organized our lives and environments are. Whether it be our rooms, our cars, our workspaces, our schedules, how we handle all of these things affects our levels of stress. So, I’ve decided to show you guys how I stay (or attempt to stay) organized.

I must plan under any circumstance

And no, I don’t mean mentally think out what I’m going to do with my day or week when the time comes. I mean physically write out what needs to get done and what I want to get done. Doing this allows me to actually see what I’m doing and if I’m actually getting things done! Plus, my Lily Pulitzer planner is adorbs so that’s an extra little perk too, right?

I also must clean as I go

I’m going to be completely honest with you guys. I’m a very OCD type of person. I like for things to be a certain way and just organized accordingly. However, I’m also very lazy and all too quickly when I look, my room/car/purse/desk/life is a mess. So before I leave the house, after or while I’m getting dressed, before getting out of the car if I see any mess I must pick it up right then and there so it doesn’t begin  to accumulate.

I schedule in “Personal Days”

Yes, you read that correctly; I schedule in “personal days”. Some of you may ask, “well what about classes?” Yes, I do have classes however, this is why I use the word schedule. Remember those packets of paper stapled together that your professor gave you at the beginning of the semester? What’s it called again? Oh, right a syllabus. Your syllabus is what is going to save you. It has all your assignment dates, test dates, class meeting dates, all ready predetermined. This being said, sometimes life gets a little crazy and you need to take a day to get your priorities back in order and get organized. Before I do this though, I consult the syllabi for all of my classes and then pick a day to take off. This is what I like to call “skipping smart”.

Well guys, this is how I stay organized, I hope this helped in some way with the Spring Semester fast approaching. What are your tips for staying organized?

Until Next Time

2017 Goals

You guys, I’m back in action! Some of my longtime followers may have noticed I took a little bit of a break from blogging and social media for a number of reasons, mainly due to the fact that I needed to take some time for me to figure out what exactly it was I wanted in life and to reassess my priorities because, duh self care is important. 2016 has been a hell of a year for me. With 2017 finally here, I’m ready to get back to the grind, so what better way to start off the year than to document and share my goals for the year.

Financial Goals

  • STOP SPENDING JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN, BAILES!

I admit it. I have a little bit of a shopping problem. Okay, I kinda just straight up lied. I have a big shopping problem. When I feel bad, I shop. When I’m happy, I shop. When I’m bored, I shop. It’s a never ending cycle. This being said, I have to cut it out. Less spending, more saving.

  • Invest

I’ve always believed in investing whether it be in myself or my closet (more so my closet), however, I want to do more than just that. I have friends that are mission minded and have their own creative ideas. Who better to invest in than your friends? We always want to put our money towards products and services provided by people we don’t even know, so why not put our money towards people we actually do know?

Academic Goals

I want a 4.0 for the semester, or no less than a 3.5. No if, ands or buts about it. Yes things do come up, but that’s no excuse for me not to be great. I know that I can pull off a 3.0 with very little effort, but why be lazy?

Career Goals

I currently have an internship working in my city’s Chamber of Commerce in the public relations department, which mainly deals with tourism. I love the work I get to do and the people I have the opportunity to meet, but I want to kind of step out of my comfort zone and explore other areas in the PR field this year.

Personal Goals

  • Make More Time for Me

I have always been the type of person to set aside my wants, for the benefit of others. That stops now. At the end of the day I have to ask myself if I am truly happy and proud of what I’ve accomplished this year, and my life as a whole. If I want that answer to be a resounding ‘yes’, then I have to focus on myself and what my goals are and what I want.

  • Plan Ahead

When it comes to managing myself I have no problem planning ahead, just in case. However, within my church I work with my cousins Brittany and Sierra in our girls ministry, working with girls between the ages of 5 and 16. We take them on outings, have small and large group workshops and discussions, as well as work on other responsibilities we have within the church. However, Brittany went off to college in August and is now in Atlanta for the majority of the year and since then, things gave been a little hectic. I feel like I can do more, I just haven’t truly sat down to plan effectively and work out how exactly I’m going to carry out my plan. This is a major goal of mine for 2017.

Blog Goals

My goals for my blog are really very limited though it’s going to take a lot of work on my part to make it so. I’d like to:

  • Brand myself more effectively
  • Gain a larger following on my social media platforms
  • Create content with more substance than fluff

Overall I feel like my goals are achievable for this year and I hope to make everything I want possible. I’m a firm believer in the phrase, “Stay down until you come up” and that’s exactly what I plan on doing this year because I want 2018 to be my cut up season. What are your goals for 2017? Let me know in the comments, I’d love to read them!

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Fall Favorites

Hey y’all! It’s officially fall AKA, my favorite season ever! …Next to winter of course, because I’m a January baby (21st birthday coming soon, just wait on it). Anyway though, back to fall. There are so many things to love about fall. Though it seems absolutely impossible, I’m going to attempt to narrow down all these things into a top four list. Here we go!

Sweater Weather

Let’s be honest, I think we all know we slay in fall fashion. It’s my favorite part about fall (yeah, don’t quote me on that, I feel like I’m going to be saying that an awful lot in this post). Sweaters, scarves, boots, leggings, you know the deal. And as an added bonus, we don’t have to worry about sweating off our beat to perfection faces.

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Monstober/Thirteen Nights of Halloween

I put these two in the same category I think for obvious reasons. o be honest, I’ve never been one for horror/slasher films because, well, I scare easy. Don’t get me started on that one episode of The Suite Life of Zack and Cody with the Ghost of Suite 613. This being said, I still like to watch Halloween/fall themed movies, it’s just fun and festive. I always have to watch Halloweentown, Hocus Pocus, The Corpse Bride, and It’s The Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown at least twice but most likely 30 times within the season.

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Fall Scented Everything

This is probably one of my absolute favorite about fall (see, I did it again). I probably (*definitely) prematurely go and raid Bath & Body Works for fall candles, wallflowers, car scent portables…even hand sanitizers. It’s just that bad. To me, there’s no better feeling than being in a clean house watching one of those Monstober or Thirteen Nights of Halloween movies I just mentioned, and having a fall candle burning. My favorite scents would have to be Marshmallow Fireside, Leaves, and Mahogany Teakwood.

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Fall Makeup

I love darker, neutral makeup looks so so so much. Paired with a dark lip (preferably a burgundy lip or a good neutral is my go to look for fall.

That’s it for my fall favorites…even though there are definitely a lot more. What are some of your fall favorites?

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